Thoughts about work…

TrinityThis weekend, as well as giving thanks for sonface, involved the genius of heading to London for Anna and Sarah Day. These days are the best kind of day, a day of peace, of sitting on sofas with big mugs of tea, cake in hand, pouring out lives to each other. A day of the giving of the gift of listening and participating in each others life and story. A day full of the kind of relief you only get when you are with people who have known you for 14 years and been through every joy and sorrow together.  I left sonface in the very capable hands of husbandface (so capable that sonface really didn’t care when I got back home) practically danced to the station and wrote lots on the train. Here’s one of those meandering thoughts:

It’s September again and, as already noted, that provides a nice place for new starts. Husbandface has returned to work and last week preached an awesome sermon about the importance of work. We pondered together beforehand what work really is. We came out of our discussions very sure of the notion that work isn’t just about paid employment. It’s a whole lot more than just that. My friend John describes work as something done for other people which is an awesome place to start a discussion on what work is from.

Work seems to encompass a whole load of different aspects of our lives, right from the very beginning of our existence. God created us, saw we were very good and we were then sent off to the garden to work in it. Creating was the work God rested from on the 7th day. Work, I think therefore, is diverse and looks different for different people at different times. I have friends who have virtually no paid employment but who volunteer in a wide capacity of roles throughout our city, they are working.

It’s hard to maintain this wide picture of work in a world which places so much value on our paid work/job status. I’m so frustrated at the moment that our government can’t see this or express value in a life that doesn’t involve paid employment. I’m not returning to ‘work’ after my year of maternity ‘leave’ this autumn. We have made the choice that I’m going to stay at home with the boy. There are a whole load of reasons for that, reasons that I won’t bore you with here.  I’m tired though of getting the feeling that the government would rather I worked, that I’m now classed as ‘economically  inactive’.

The reality is that I do work, I’ve been working for the last 10 months. I have a full time, appallingly paid job, a job I love and wouldn’t change (well maybe a day or two a week of doing something different would be nice). My job title is mum. The job description is nicely varied and  the hours are interesting to say the least. I work.

I’m learning to embrace that notion, that this life does involve hard work and that is a good thing. Although work is frustrating and painful this side of the fall, God still made it. It’s part of being human. A glorious part. Work is good. It just doesn’t have to look like paid employment.

I want to revel in that, to rejoice in work, to ask my maker for help as he works alongside me, to find ways to sabbath in this full time crazy work juggernaut of being a mum. I want to rejoice in the diversity of work and see the wonder of the maker as we join him in creating order from chaos in this world.

Today I’m having my first full day off in 10 months. I’ve left the sonface and husbandface to enjoy each others company and will have a day in the excellent company of my friends Anna and Sarah. The best kind of day. In other circumstances what we do together would be work but today those things will be glorious sabbath. Eating good food, having deep chats and remembering we belong to God together. And that demonstrates what I love about work in this world, it’s diverse, is work sometimes and rest at other times. God is so brilliantly inventive to have made it so.

What do you reckon work is?

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Thankful

cakeToday we celebrated together with friends and family the crazy wonderful gift of our son. We figured, 10 months down the line, that we are thankful that he is in our lives. So we wanted to celebrate, rejoice in God’s goodness and pray for him as he grows up in this world. For those interested and for those who couldn’t make it here’s the short service of thanksgiving we held in the midst of lunch today.

Thanksgiving for Sonface

 

Leader: Our God is a God who delights in celebration, in fine wines and in feasts. Our God is a God who delights in new life, in creating and in pouring out his love on his people. We are here today to celebrate his love in creating Sonface.

Psalm 139 says…

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful,I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. How precious to me are your thoughts God! How vast is the sum of them!

Luke 18:15-18

People were also bringing babies to Jesus for him to place his hands on them. When the disciples saw this, they rebuked them. But Jesus called the children to him and said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. 17 Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.”

God has made Sonface and then given him to Kath and Husbandface, entrusting him to their care. Today we say thank you for Sonface and pray that he would come to know the wonder and joy of being loved by his maker.

ALL: God our creator,
we thank you for the wonder of new life
and for the mystery of human love.
We thank you for all whose support and skill
surround and sustain the beginning of life.
We thank you that we are known to you by name
and loved by you from all eternity.
We thank you for Jesus Christ,
who has opened to us the way of love.
We praise you, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

Leader: Parents and godparents, the Church receives Sonface with joy.

Today we are trusting God for Sonface’s growth in faith. Will you pray for him to know the never stopping, never giving up, unbreaking, always and forever love of God? Will you pray for him to grow into a wise, kind man who loves God more than anything else?  Will you draw him by your example into the community of faith and walk with him in the way of Christ?

Parents and Godparents: With the help of God we will

To everyone else:

Leader: We recognise that it takes a village to raise a child, will you, the friends and family of Husbandface and Kath stand with them as they love Sonface and help them navigate the joys and challenges of caring for and parenting him.  Will you do all that you can to help and support this family?

All: With the help of God, we will.

Prayers- Godfamily & Godmum

Kath and Husbandface pray:

God our creator,
we thank you for the gift of Sonface
entrusted to our care.
May we be patient and understanding,
ready to guide and to forgive,
so that through our love
he would come to know your love;
through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Amen.

Leader: We pray these verses would true of Sonface all the days of his life:

Psalm 89 

“Blessed are those who have learned to acclaim you, who walk in the light of your presence, Lord. They rejoice in your name all day long; they celebrate your righteousness. For you are their glory and strength”

Sadly sonface’s Godmum, Binface, couldn’t be there due to illness but she did send in excellent prayers, this being one of my favourite lines: “I suppose I feel it’s inevitable that Ethan will be a Christian because his Mum and Dad make it so attractive to follow Jesus, I can’t imagine why he wouldn’t. But just in case Father, I pray that you will guide his heart towards you every day and that he will always be yours. I pray particularly that he will be a Christian who is soaked in grace. Drenched in it.”

booksWe ended today feeling very glad of all those in our life who are helping us take care of our boy, who are praying for him, who love him and will be around in his life for the long haul. Lots came today and lots couldn’t but we are deeply grateful for such a brilliant community around us and our small beautiful son.

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The holidays are over…

Mournes

The very pretty Mourne Mountains

It’s Monday morning, the first day of life beyond the holidays. The boy is sleeping and I’m sitting here trying to collect my thoughts.  I can barely believe it’s been a year since I left the world of paid employment to await the arrival of our son. It’s been a crazy year.

Being married to a teacher means September retains the shinny newness I remember from school days. I’ve yet to buy new stationary but today feels like a new start and for that I am grateful, however long that feeling lasts. We’ve had a lovely time over the last 6 weeks catching up with friends, helping out on a kids camp, visiting family, enjoying the world of Northern Ireland once again and generally delighting in life together as a family. I think I feel almost human again after 6 weeks of the excellent husbandface sharing the daytime entertainment of sonface. Sleep has been a little bit more forthcoming and the park opening down the road has meant there is excellent opportunity for fresh air at the awkward grumpy times of the day.

Up at dawn on holiday

Up at dawn on holiday

This term ahead will bring new challenges, friends are returning to work, there will be new groups to take part in. I want to not just fill all our available time with stuff but have more time to get creative at home with the boy now he and I can cope with a few more things. I want to write and take advantage of friends who offer to take the boy for a few hours. I’m starting a course in Spiritual Direction one day a month and I’m hoping to make the most of spare time to write and think. Right now that feels like it might be possible. I really have no idea how things will work out but I hope and that is a good place to start.

I was thinking I would write a whole list of recommendations from our holiday reading, watching, listening etc but then I remembered that we have a 10 month old. We did manage to do some non baby related things though.

familytimesBest music of the summer: We enjoyed catching up with all we’d missed since sonface was born and loved listening to Tom Odell and Jake Bugg lots on road trips. Sonface loves Seeds Family Worship, which also ensures you’ve got random bible verses on loop in your head throughout the day.

Films of the summer:  Hmmm, we have yet to revisit that thing called the cinema, so we are slightly lacking in inspiration, but we did reinstall our lovefilm membership which helps with the film watching. We saw Broken (very intense), Side Effects (very disturbing and intense), Away We Go, (not intense in the slightest but lovely), Les Miserables (surprised at how much I’d missed watching it at the Big Scream earlier in the year), Skyfall (see previous comment), Flight (very good character study) and The Odd Life of Timothy Green (possibly the worst film I’ve seen in a long time…). Most of those were even watched without pressing the pause button.

Books of the summer: Ah I wish I could say that I’ve read many books but they seem to be the one thing that I haven’t got round to doing this summer. Even the lovely kindle hasn’t upped my reading much. I have started The Child that Books Built by Francis Spufford which I hope to finish one day as it’s very promising. That’s it for books, this makes me sad.

We ate a lot of cake over the summer and I can highly recommend bounty millionaires shortbread as had at the Giants Causeway cafe. The best place to go was the park just opened up down the road full of water fountains, swings, seagulls and so many people for sonface to stare in wonder at.

I think that’s about it. The sunshine streaming through the windows today tells me that summer might not be quite over yet but today feels like a shiny new start and for now I shall bask in that and try and not think about the rest of the term ahead.

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Following on…

So, the excellent Phil made an excellent comment on my last post. He pointed out that really my thoughts might just be another person throwing a ‘no but I’m right’ way of living with God into the arena. He has a point.

So what are we to do? Just sit around declaring we are right and others are wrong? I’m not sure, I’m generally suspicious of people who are definite about all the tiny little details of life with God and who want everyone else to follow their tiny little details. I think it’s probably good that we call people to stop doing that and let us all breathe a bit when it comes to this walking with God malarky.

I’m definitely going to shout for people to stop doing it when they make my friends sad because they’ve heard the message that you can only talk to God in THIS way or only have a relationship with God in THIS style. That’s when I think it’s ok to get angry and give people the freedom to relate to God in ways that are helpful and enable them to believe this crazy never stopping love of his.

But, there comes a point when we really need to stop worrying about what everyone else is doing. We could spend years worrying about what other people think, what other people believe and how other people relate to God. There might be times when it’s helpful to do that but mostly obsessions of that nature hide what is really going on in our own hearts.  What does God say? He says, ‘this is the one who I esteem, he who is contrite in spirit and trembles at my word’ (Isaiah 66:2). Am I doing that? Am I paying attention to what really matters. Do I tremble at his words, take them more seriously than everyone else’s? Am I contrite? Do I recognise my own flaws and failings and am I bringing them to God? Am I trusting Him to work in my friends lives? Am I trying to be the judge of others rather than leaving them in God’s hands?

Jesus tells Peter, when he enquires after John’s fate at the end of John’s gospel, to stop looking at John and says to him: ‘you must follow me’.  At the end of the day I could spend lots of time worrying about what others are doing and thinking but Jesus says to you and me, come, follow me. It doesn’t matter what others think of how I do that but it does matter that I’m following Jesus.

I want to do all I can to clear away the rubbish that has stopped others following Jesus freely. I want to challenge thinking that squashes the weak, the broken and the hurting. But  I think there comes a point when Jesus calls me to stop worrying about what everyone else is doing and walk with him myself, loving him, being loved by him and loving those around me.

What do you think?

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Life with God in the holidays…

Ethan, Daddy and the SeaLife in the holidays is pretty good, we’ve got through the weirdness of routines changing and are enjoying hanging out as a family.  A lovely perk of being married to a teacher.  Throughout the last few weeks we’ve loved days where friends have come to visit and we can enjoy our city together.  Days of pottering around Brighton soaking up the sun, eating good food, enjoying the beach and generally having excellent chats along the way have reminded me of the sheer genius creativity of our God.

We’ve had a day like this recently with the excellent Binface. We talked about our God, how he’s in all of the beautiful things we’d been able to do that day, how he created them and is glad we are enjoying them. He is glad we are in his world, enjoying his stuff.

We talked of how we’ve grown tired of Christian subcultures that diminish this wonder, that seem to think this life is all about who thinks the right things about God, forgetting that God really can’t be contained in our little systems, he is much bigger than we give him credit for.

I love that life with God isn’t about one particular way of relating to him. I love that life with God isn’t about thinking the correct things about him, that it isn’t about being clear about every tiny detail about who he is and how he works.  Life with God seems to be more about enjoying living in this beautiful world he made, enjoying being a dearly loved child of his and enjoying his crazy grace in loving us and rescuing us. It seems to be about clinging tight to the two or three certainties and living with the wonder and mystery of lots of other things.

So often we Christians have put up fences, locked each other out in an effort to have everything sewn up, we’ve been too concerned with outward stuff and less concerned with being kind, compassionate, gentle, humble, joyful, peaceful, self controlled and loving. We’ve reduced life with God to a one dimensional way of relating to him and made a life with God look like just a list of stuff to do or fail to do each day.

I’m glad God is bigger than us and our silliness. I’m glad he created days where we can eat amazing food, enjoy the sun, have brilliant conversations, play on slot machines on the pier, see skater boys in the park, eat ice cream, drink good wine, sit on the beach, watch a small boy delight in banging stones together, look at big fat clouds hanging in the sky and were we can know that we are known by the Maker of all this.

I’m glad we have a God who cares for the broken, the weary, the ones who can’t summon up the words to articulate some correct theology. He’s a God who is about giving rest to the weary and heavy laden. A God who calls us to come as little children. My son crawls to me when he’s tired and sad, he wiggles around in my arms fighting and then sometimes he rests his head on my shoulder too tired to fight anymore. He gets grumpy and wants my lap, then wants down, then wants my lap, then wants down. I don’t reject him for his fickle nature. I hold him close in my weary tiredness. Thankfully God is a better parent than me. He doesn’t grow weary or tired of loving us, of calling us away from the foolish arguments to come and play in his beautiful world.

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